Call me a killjoy but I do love early September.
After the lazy haze of summer with no routine, I start to feel back in control and in a manner able to organise and sort out the exciting tasks ahead. Being in control helps us to feel safe and secure which in turn lowers our blood pressure, reduces anxiety and helps us to function at an optimal level. It is when we lose control that our health takes a tumble and we lose rationale and perspective.
These past few months we have been renovating a house which we moved into over the summer and it has to be said it went pretty smoothly, as far as house moves go. My expectation of builders from past experience has been to watch their every move and check that they have understood exactly what it is I require. Our builders were brilliant. Whilst it seems that the kettle had a good run of operation and should probably be featured in the “tried & tested” section of the Which report, our builders certainly exceeded our expectations. They arrived early with the dawn chorus, cleaned up each day and even offered design suggestions along the way which has improved our “look” and features of our dream home.
Yes it has to be said renovating and moving house is stressful but running your own business can, at times, make you want to scream. In the last month we have had:
A problem with our bank taking it upon themselves to cancel our direct debit credit card payments which have caused all sorts of knock on effects, yes, including standing in a queue and having the cashier tell you that the card’s not working in their loudest voice. When asked why they could not explain
Our company telephone provider charging us for an 0845 number we never asked for and insisting we pay for the year because we did not cancel it (WE NEVER ASKED FOR IT!!)
Our company credit card terminal provider changing our terminal but claiming that the delivery company never picked up the dud one (when he had) and therefore we need to pay them £600 for a lost terminal! The hours it has taken to sort all of this has been colossal.
Then yesterday when finally getting back the children back to school so I could do some serious work without their constant whines and moans, I find the office printer decides to go on strike along with our email boxes rejecting emails to senders when I have already emptied my inboxes!! Very frustrating.
Luckily my husband and I are fairly philosophical people and we are looking upon this wave of calamity as simply that, a wave. Let it wash over us and wait patiently for a seismic shift when everything changes. We know these things come in cycles, the more upset, frustrated and angry you get, the more you will attract more of the same. The universe has a funny way of delivering its penance to you. Isn’t it interesting how everything seems to go wrong at once. Or, is it that we are just looking at everything through a negative pair of spectacles and giving strength to attracting anything negative around us to magnetise towards us. Ask yourself when you face this type of phase, is my glass half full or half empty? What am I grateful for? By reframing your inner dialogue and thinking, you can consciously focus your inner thinking on things that you are grateful for and you are happy about.
By being in a state of wanting things to be a certain way when they are not we are telling our unconscious mind that we are lacking in it. Examples of this are, “If I had a new job, I would be happier”, “If I earn more money, I would be able to afford more holidays”. In order to achieve what you want in your life you need to visualise and put yourself into the situation as though you already have it. Visualise it, experience the feelings you would have if you had what you wanted, hear your inner thoughts out loud of what you would be saying if you had what you wanted. As they say in the Kevin Costner film, Field of Dreams, “Build it and he will come”. I’m not suggesting you carve a baseball diamond from a corn field and exhausting all your funds, but take from this the idea of someone pursuing their dream no matter how much effort it takes?
Recently, the Life Practice welcomed a new Associate, Gaynor Dawson, who set up her Life Practice Hitchin clinic. By using the visualisation technique mentioned above, she has, over the last six months:
Found a perfectly located office in Hitchin to run her clinic from
Increased the number of clients that she has helped
Been invited by not one but two local publications to be a guest contributor
Created business partnerships with local independent schools to help children with Confidence and Exam nerves
She is really happy that her business is thriving and puts it down to believing, seeing, hearing and feeling it before it had happened.
Gaynor says, “Being self-employed can be lonely and the buck stops with you, you have to get out there and make it happen if you want success. Visualisation is just one task I teach my clients to use to achieve their full potential and the results are amazing”.